How to Know You're in Love

1. You're addicted to this person.

2. You really want your friends or family to like this person.

3. You celebrate this person's triumphs (even when you yourself fail).

4. You definitely like this person, and this person likes you.

5. You really miss this person when you're apart.

6. Your sense of self has grown through knowing this person.

7. You get jealous - but not suspicious.


Source:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201406/how-do-you-know-if-youre-in-love?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

Are You Emotionally Intelligent?

You Have a Robust Emotional Vocabulary
You’re Curious about People
You Embrace Change
You Know Your Strengths and Weaknesses
You’re a Good Judge of Character
You Are Difficult to Offend
You Know How to Say No (to Yourself and Others)
You Let Go of Mistake
You Give and Expect Nothing in Return
You Don’t Hold Grudge
You Neutralize Toxic People
You Don’t Seek Perfection
You Appreciate What You Have
You Disconnect
You Limit Your Caffeine Intake
You Get Enough Sleep
You Stop Negative Self-Talk in Its Tracks
You Won’t Let Anyone Limit Your Joy


Source:

http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/242881

Falling in Love

Falling in love and building an attachment are a wonderful basis for a healthy relationship, but keep in mind that staying in a relationship (or, for that matter, choosing to start one) is often based on more than satisfaction and feeling good in another person’s presence. Models of relationship success (such as Rusbult’s investment model) show that the staying power of relationships takes mutual investment and commitment. If love is passion, security, and emotional comfort, commitment is the necessary decision made within one’s cultural and social contexts to be with that person.

Source: 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201406/how-do-you-know-if-youre-in-love?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

Quotes I Live By

If you live for other people's acceptance, you'll die from their rejection.

If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun ;)

A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor.

Let your past makes you better, not bitter.

Everything is hard before it's easy.

Sometimes ignorance is bliss.

Life's too short for negativity.

Jealousy

Love is not jealous. In fact, there is almost nothing that can suffocate a good feeling between two people faster, or with more certainty, than jealousy. It is, however, one of the easiest human emotions to understand. Jealousy stems from insecurity, and insecurity comes from feelings and thoughts of inadequacy. One of the only ways a person can create feelings of inadequacy is to first compare himself or herself to others.

It's important to accept the fact that there is always going to be someone out there who has something you do not - more money, better looks, greater charisma, a longer list of achievements, or whatever. So what? Good for them.

Stop comparing yourself to others and you'll be amazed at how much better you'll feel about yourself. Remember, you have also been gifted with unique talents and attributes that others don't enjoy. Spend your mental energy focusing on these gifts, and be grateful for your own ability to make a contribution.

Try to embrace the idea that one person will not fill all of your needs, nor will you fill all of theirs. And that's okay. We are here to share our life energy with others; to grow and be nurtured, to nurture and grow.

When you find yourself feeling insecure or having feelings of inadequacy, try to gently reflect on your thoughts. See if you are busy comparing yourself to others. Are you making up stories that exist only in your mind? If you can cast away jealousy, you will experience a freedom from insecurity that will nurture your relationship forever.

- An excerpt from Don't Sweat the Small Stuff in Love by Richard Carlson

This Too Shall Pass

Your own moods can be extremely deceptive. They can, and probably do, trick you into believing your life is far worse than it really is. When you're in a good mood, life looks great. You have perspective, common sense, and wisdom. In good moods, things don't feel so hard, problems seem less formidable and easier to solve.

On the contrary, when you're in a bad mood, life looks unbearably serious and difficult. You have very little perspective. You take things personally and often misinterpret those around you.

The truth is, life is almost never as bad as it seems when you're in a low mood. Rather than staying stuck in a bad temper, convinced you are seeing life realistically, you can learn to question your judgment. Remind yourself, "Of course I'm feeling stressed, depressed etc. I'm in a bad mood. I always feel negative when I'm low."

When you're in an ill mood, learn to pass it off as simply that: an unavoidable human condition that will pass with time, if you leave it alone. This is not the time to analyze your life. To do so is emotional suicide.

The trick is to be grateful for our good moods and graceful in our low moods - not taking them too seriously. The next time you feel low, for whatever reason, remind yourself, "This too shall pass." It will.

- An excerpt from Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... by Richard Carlson

Sadness

Sadness is a blessing

Sadness is a pearl

Sadness is my boyfriend

Oh, sadness I'm your girl 

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I ranted, I pleaded, I beg him not to go

For sorrow, the only lover I've ever known

Every night I rant, I plead, I beg him not to go

Will sorrow be the only lover I can call my own?