Jealousy

Love is not jealous. In fact, there is almost nothing that can suffocate a good feeling between two people faster, or with more certainty, than jealousy. It is, however, one of the easiest human emotions to understand. Jealousy stems from insecurity, and insecurity comes from feelings and thoughts of inadequacy. One of the only ways a person can create feelings of inadequacy is to first compare himself or herself to others.

It's important to accept the fact that there is always going to be someone out there who has something you do not - more money, better looks, greater charisma, a longer list of achievements, or whatever. So what? Good for them.

Stop comparing yourself to others and you'll be amazed at how much better you'll feel about yourself. Remember, you have also been gifted with unique talents and attributes that others don't enjoy. Spend your mental energy focusing on these gifts, and be grateful for your own ability to make a contribution.

Try to embrace the idea that one person will not fill all of your needs, nor will you fill all of theirs. And that's okay. We are here to share our life energy with others; to grow and be nurtured, to nurture and grow.

When you find yourself feeling insecure or having feelings of inadequacy, try to gently reflect on your thoughts. See if you are busy comparing yourself to others. Are you making up stories that exist only in your mind? If you can cast away jealousy, you will experience a freedom from insecurity that will nurture your relationship forever.

- An excerpt from Don't Sweat the Small Stuff in Love by Richard Carlson

This Too Shall Pass

Your own moods can be extremely deceptive. They can, and probably do, trick you into believing your life is far worse than it really is. When you're in a good mood, life looks great. You have perspective, common sense, and wisdom. In good moods, things don't feel so hard, problems seem less formidable and easier to solve.

On the contrary, when you're in a bad mood, life looks unbearably serious and difficult. You have very little perspective. You take things personally and often misinterpret those around you.

The truth is, life is almost never as bad as it seems when you're in a low mood. Rather than staying stuck in a bad temper, convinced you are seeing life realistically, you can learn to question your judgment. Remind yourself, "Of course I'm feeling stressed, depressed etc. I'm in a bad mood. I always feel negative when I'm low."

When you're in an ill mood, learn to pass it off as simply that: an unavoidable human condition that will pass with time, if you leave it alone. This is not the time to analyze your life. To do so is emotional suicide.

The trick is to be grateful for our good moods and graceful in our low moods - not taking them too seriously. The next time you feel low, for whatever reason, remind yourself, "This too shall pass." It will.

- An excerpt from Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... by Richard Carlson

Sadness

Sadness is a blessing

Sadness is a pearl

Sadness is my boyfriend

Oh, sadness I'm your girl 

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I ranted, I pleaded, I beg him not to go

For sorrow, the only lover I've ever known

Every night I rant, I plead, I beg him not to go

Will sorrow be the only lover I can call my own? 

Never Ever

True that.

Envy

"The more we have, the more we want. And the only cure is to break the cycle of relativity." - Predictably Irrational

I realized how much I have changed and grown over the years when the subject of "envy" came up in class today. Professor asked us to describe what it's like to feel envious and what we do to handle the feeling. I'm sure everyone has felt envious of others in their lives. I, too, used to feel that way a lot...especially when you add social media into our gen y lives.

But I realized something today. A kind gentleman has taught me so much on this subject. I have never met anyone with such a big heart. I have never seen him envious of others. I have never heard him talk negatively about anyone. Whenever something good happened to someone, he would say "good for him!" "good for her!" "good for them!" and he genuinely meant it. I didn't believe he was sincere at first but two years I was with him, he remained consistent in his character. That kind of thinking has influenced me and has shaped my way of thinking towards life.

Now whenever I hear good news about others or just see their glamorous photos on social media, I hardly and rarely ever had the "envy" feeling...If they were my friends, I'd just think good for them! Really, there's no point in being envious of other people. Sure, you can make it as some kind of motivation for you to better yourself, but most of the time, being envious just leaves you bitter and unhappy with your life. Instead, be happy for those people and honestly, you end up being happy yourself with the blissful feeling of warmth and kindness.

Love Me Like You Do

I'll let you set the pace...

'Cause I'm not thinking straight...

My head's spinning around I can't see clear no more

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Modesty or Self-Destruction

Having a low opinion of yourself is not modesty. It’s self-destruction.

- Bobby Sommer

Something I Learned

Never get attached.

Never expect.

Life becomes so much easier that way.

'Til I Get Over You

You got me like a loaded gun, golden sun and sky so blue...
We both know that we want it, but we both know you left me NO choice

(Chaque fois que tu t'en vas)
You just bring me down
(Je pratends que tout va bien)
So I'm counting my tears 'til I get over you

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We both know we can't change it, but we both know we'll just have to face it

We both know that I'm not over you....I'm not over you....

Falling From Cloud Nine

I'm wide awake.
Yeah, I was in the dark. I was falling hard with an open heart.
I'm wide awake.
How did I read the stars so wrong?
I'm wide awake.
And now it's clear to me that everything you see ain't always what it seems
Yeah, I was dreaming for so long.

I wish I knew then what I know now. Wouldn't dive in. Wouldn't bow down.
Gravity hurts. You made it so sweet. Til I woke up on the concrete.

Falling from cloud nine. Crashing from the high. I'm letting go tonight.
Yeah, I'm falling from cloud nine...